Tuesday, December 12, 2017

#20 the Minnesota state capitol, odd mail, medical technology, web comment sections, dining and drinking alone with the opposite sex, humblebragging, a woman not in my life, a tiny bit on algebra





In mid-April I (and two other friends from our time in student government at the University in the early 1970s) had a tour of the renovated Minnesota state capitol building with a third friend (also from student government) whose work takes him into the capitol frequently. The renovation restored a magnificent Cass Gilbert building to its original splendor and it was (is) breathtaking.  It's one of the few building I've seen here—in Minnesota—that even faintly compares to some of the awe-inspiring architecture of Europe.

I happened shortly thereafter to read a short article on state capitol buildings. 

States selected the finest architects of their day to design their capitols about as often as they selected their finest citizens to be governors—not very frequently. The vast majority of these buildings were the work of architects of lesser-to-vanishing renown. There are a few works by eminent American architects, one by McKim Mead and White, two by Cass Gilbert, and one partially to Henry Hobson Richardson’s credit.  And yet the first three of those are obvious experiments on familiar models, all looking far more like the national and state peers than anything else.

            It is true that the Minnesota capitol looks remarkably like the national capitol.  Cass Gilbert didn't do the national capitol, of course—but he did do the U.S. Supreme Court building.   Construction of the U.S. capitol building began in 1793; the Minnesota capitol was started in 1896, with local architect Cass Gilbert winning the commission.

The Civil War roughly inaugurated a lengthy and more familiar mode of capitol construction.  Most of the capitols that rose between then and the early 20th century explicitly aped the national model. . . .  Swelling domes were de rigueur.  Decor was frequently ornate.  Width decisively supplanted depth as a prevailing characteristic, with wings ubiquitous. 

The two examples by familiar architects stand out.  Cass Gilbert’s splendid Beaux-Arts Minnesota capitol was a personal showcase for the architect, a son of St. Paul returned from New York for a plumb commission.  The other great capitol of the era, McKim Mead and White’s Rhode Island State House, . . . [an] Italian Renaissance capitol, with a dome modeled on St. Peter’s Basilica and Rome (one of the largest unsupported domes in the world) is a rightful landmark.

            One amusing story my friend told us was about the large marble pillars in the capitol building.  They were carved abroad (maybe Italy—I don't remember) and then, in order to ship them, they were cut in thirds.  Unfortunately, when they were cut, the pieces weren't labeled, and the construction crews couldn't figure out which pieces to put on top of others.  As a result, the pillars have top, middle, and bottom thirds that don't match, because they were just put together whatever which way.

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            We had a rather bizarre experience.  One day last spring Kathy received in the mail two identical boxes.  She opened them; each contained a coffee mug with the words "You're so fake, you make Barbie look real."  She looked at me and jokingly asked if I'd ordered them.  I took her seriously for a microsecond and responded "why on earth would I order something so insulting for the woman I love?"  Or something like that.  But I knew she knew I hadn't sent them.

            The next day a third mug, identical to the first two, showed up in the mail.  After that they stopped.

            We had no idea who sent them or why.  We still don't.  The return address was an outfit in Indiana that does shipping for a lot of organizations, so that told us nothing.  Elliott hypothesized that they were simply a screw-up on someone's part; that's probably right.

The other question is when that statement would ever be funny; I can't imagine circumstances it could be used—the only remote possibility would be as a joke to someone who had multiple bionic attachments.  But I can't imagine anyone giving such mugs to a woman without intending offense.  (And they must be aimed at a woman; presumably the reference would otherwise be to Ken.)

            Kathy was sort of hoping that three more would arrive; a set of six would have been nice. 

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            I'm impressed by advances in medical technology.  I have had episodic amazingly sharp pains in my wrist in recent years and I could not identify what provoked it.  I can be doing something using my hand—changing laundry, putting a key in the door, feeding the cats—and suddenly have a spasm of pain that takes my breath away and that makes further use of my wrist quite painful.  Until a few weeks ago, either the pain and weakness would just go away in 15-30 minutes or 600mg of ibuprofen would make it go away.  No problem.

            When it didn't go away even after repeated doses of ibuprofen, I went to the hand-and-wrist physician I've gotten to know for other reasons (Dupuytren's contracture, a story not worth relating and not medically dangerous).  I tell her what's up; she says she needs an x-ray.  So I walk across the hall and the radiologist immediately takes three shots of my wrist.  I go back across the hall to the patient room; the physician is in the room within a couple of minutes.  (I was impressed with the punctuality of the entire sequence of events, but it probably helped that my appointment was at 7:10 a.m., so there was no backlog).

            Dr. Van Heest sits down and says to me (approximately), "let's take a look and see what the x-rays show."  I tell her I'll be glad to look but that for me, looking at x-rays and ultrasounds and MRI scans is like looking at Egyptian hieroglyphics.  She tells me I'll know.  She turns her monitor so we both see it, and immediately points to a blob on the black and white screen that she says is a free-floating bone fragment that occasionally gets between the wrist bones, and when it does, it causes excruciating pain.  What's more, it's very clear to me, too, much to my surprise.

            What amazed me in this process was both the speed and the technology.  I haven't had an x-ray for some time, and I know that the process of developing them in a dark room and hanging them up with clips has been by the boards for some time, but I didn't realize the x-ray machines now just put the results on the medical center server immediately so the docs can look at them.

            I knew there was a reason I liked the time I spent time with (a disproportionate number of) mechanical engineering faculty members during my career.

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It's true of about 90% of comments sections.  There are a few websites where the vast majority of reader comments are thoughtful and on point and there are interesting exchanges between informed and intelligent people.  Perhaps those are sites where the comments are moderated and the crap is deleted; I have never checked.

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            I was amused by the little news flap about Mr. Pence never dining with another woman alone and never attending an event where alcohol was served unless his wife was present.  I did a quick count of women with whom I have had a meal, just the two of us, even though I was married.  Some of the women were married, some were not; some of the events were social (and included alcohol), some were professional (and some included alcohol).  My list ran to 35, and that's only the women I could remember for sure that I'd shared a meal with (including, of course, the three women friends about whom I wrote earlier this year).

            I won't say I couldn't have done my job without such events, but business lunches were always a pleasant way to accomplish things as well as to include social chat.  In none of these settings (at least on my side, and I'm certain on hers) was there ever even a hint of anything improper or sexual or anything of the sort.  In the case of social events, meals (and wine) with women friends have been a regular part of my life and contributed to the ongoing friendship.  Surely the friendships would have continued in the absence of such occasions—but why would we not have them?  In any event, my life has been much more enjoyable because of these interactions.

            One wonders if Mr. Pence does not trust his self control and must have urges that he struggles to keep to himself if he feels he cannot dine alone with a woman.  If so, he's not alone.  The New York Times found that Pence's view is in line with that of many Americans.  I must have lived in a different world.  About 25% of poll respondents said it was inappropriate to have a private work meeting with a member of the opposite sex (so, OK, about three quarters didn't think that).  "A majority of women, and nearly half of men, say it’s unacceptable to have dinner or drinks alone with someone of the opposite sex other than their spouse. . . .  Fewer than two-thirds of respondents said a work meeting alone with a member of the opposite sex was appropriate; 16 percent of women and 18 percent of men with postgraduate degrees said it was inappropriate."

One problem with this attitude is that it puts women in the workplace at a disadvantage—and some women were quick to see that.  Men can have one-on-one meetings, and talk about issues important to that workplace and for career advancement, but one-on-ones, man-woman, are seen by some as risky.  Risky for the woman because of the possibility of sexual harassment; risky for the man because of the possibility of accusations of sexual harassment.  There is also the risk of insinuation, either at work or outside it, even though neither the man nor the woman had any thought of anything inappropriate.  "One reason women stall professionally, research shows, is that people have a tendency to hire, promote and mentor people like themselves.  When men avoid solo interactions with women — a catch-up lunch or late night finishing a project — it puts women at a disadvantage."

Of course, as one labor law lawyer observed, any rule or practice about meetings that only applied to one sex would probably not pass legal muster.  So everybody who has a worry also has a conundrum.

Not surprising, "if they were above 65, Republican or very religious, respondents were slightly more likely to say people should take extra precaution around members of the opposite sex at work.  They were less likely if they were young, students, not religious or registered as an independent."  The biggest gap in opinion came on education:  the college educated were less concerned (although even many of those were).  But a guy named Dennis Hollinger, chief executive of a Christian seminary, recognized the difficulties.  He "said the practice goes beyond what the Bible requires.  'All of us know our ethical and spiritual vulnerabilities, and the idea of establishing protocols to live out those commitments can be a good thing.  The negative side is this particular practice really can appear to treat women in really dehumanizing ways, almost as if they were a temptress.'"

And there are those who are in my camp:

Some people said the behavior simply did not reflect the world they live in. For Hannah Stackawitz, 30, a health care consultant in Langhorne, Pa., life without solo meetings with men is unimaginable.  "I do it every day, honestly," she said, as does her husband.  "There’s no way that women or men can become their full and best selves by closing themselves off."

I think that's right.  But to say that doesn't dismiss the concerns about harassment or accusations of it or potential damage to reputation by insinuation.

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            A Columbia University professor and colleagues did an interesting series of studies on status and concluded that one principal measure has changed:  it's no longer the amount of leisure time you have or the amount of possessions, it's being perceived as "busy and overworked."  "We tend to think that people who skip leisure and work all the time are of higher standing."  Instead of bragging about leisure time, "high-status Americans . . . [are today] more likely to engage in humblebrag, telling those around them how they 'have no life' or desperately need a vacation."

            The shift is thus from the conspicuous consumption that Thorstein Veblen made infamous to the alleged scarcity of time, which means the individuals are in demand:  "People's social-mobility beliefs are psychologically driven by the perception that busy individuals possess desirable characteristics, leading them to be viewed as scarce and in demand."  One also conveys busyness by using services that save time, such as online food and delivery services (they mention Peapod, which I'd never heard of).

            "Humblebragging" is the use of social media, often by the "famous," "the act of showing off about something through an ostensibly self-deprecating statement."  Such as "would love some free time but has been too busy writing," "Opened a show last Friday. Begin rehearsals for another next Tuesday. In-between that, meetings in DC. I HAVE NO LIFE!" "Had a lot going on these past few weeks and even more these next two… this is wayyyy to much to handle!" and "I need 2 write a blog with an update on everything!! I have been so ridic busy w meetings and calls that I have neglected my fans."  At the level of the less famous, the studies demonstrated that people at work who give the impression they are so busy they have no time for anything else are higher status.  It's an interesting evolution in the use of social media.

            Their research included both Italians and Americans.  (The lead author is an American academic but her name is Silvia Bellezza.)  The Italians, in my view, are much more sensible:  "While busyness at work is associated with high status among Americans, the effect is reversed for Italians, who still view a leisurely life as representative of high status."

            I've seen this phenomenon a lot.  I am sure that when I worked, I engaged in some humblebragging (although through email, which doesn't fall in the category of social media, so mine was only directed to one individual at a time, rather than at the world through Twitter or Facebook).  I had never thought about the practice as "humblebragging," although it surely is, nor about it conveying higher status.  What, someone is going to say "sure, I can do that, I have plenty of spare time in my job"? 

            Whether or not it was true at the moment, it was always a good excuse to avoid doing something with people with whom I didn't wish to spend time.

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            (Even though this begins with an obituary, it's not depressing or about death.)  There are few or no reasons to read obituaries in a local paper unless one has lived in the locality one's entire life, or at least for a very long time.  Because I've lived here all my life, I do scan them every day.  I would say that, on average, once a week I see a notice for someone I know or knew of—former K-12 teacher, classmate, retired University faculty or staff, friends of my parents, etc.

            A few messages back I wrote about three women who played a substantial role in my life.  An obituary in the local newspaper in December reminded me of another one, although she had no idea about her effect on my life.  Julie Belle White died.  She was the daughter of Hubert W. White, who owned a high-end men's clothing store in downtown Minneapolis for many years.  (The store still exists.)  In 1975, while working for the dean of the College of Liberal Arts and in graduate school, I noticed an opening for an "administrative internship" in the office of one of the University's vice presidents.  I applied.

            At the end of the (small, informal) search, there were two candidates:  me and Julie Belle White.  The vice president (a guy named Walter Bruning, who virtually no one at the University remembers because he was only there two years, from 1974-1976) offered the job to Julie.  She turned him down because she'd also been offered a tenure-track faculty position at College of St. Catherine in St. Paul.  It's evident from her obituary that she went on to a highly successful career at the college (now "university") and in general had a remarkable life.

            The result of her decision was that I got the internship (that turned into a full-time regular staff position within a year), and six months into the job found myself in the middle of the administration of college athletics (when the University president transferred line responsibility for athletics to Walt Bruning, who in turn asked me to handle all the staff work associated with the new item in his administrative portfolio).  I am quite sure that had I not been offered and taken the position, I would have had nothing ever to do with college sports.  As it was, I was immersed in it for a decade (and thereafter, off and on, until about three years ago).  The one benefit of that engagement was that I made some wonderful friends (at least nine of whom are recipients of these missives:  MDB, HKC, JTD, GD, BE, CHBG, JCH, NT, CW).

            Life takes strange twists and turns.

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            Apropos of my cartoon about algebra and Krystin's humorous little wisecrack, a friend wrote back after reading it.  "Well . . . I must admit I used the quadratic formula after high school and college math.  Once.  For something.  I just remember that I pulled out that darned quadratic formula and it solved whatever math problem was in front of me.  Then I got therapy and went on to live a more meaningful life.  :-)"

           

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